For My Number One Fan

So my number one fan told me to write a blog. Being the nice person I am, I decided to go ahead with one. Just to satify temporary because I am a little sleepy. Here are her suggestions (I would have just written down my dreams of becoming a boxer): 1. dating I really liked your Discretion blog and i think there is room to expand 2. Clothes and how we put way to much thought into it (feel free to use me as a case study i know i have a problem lol)3. The importants of having good christian friends. ( Sorry for any incorrect grammer, spelling, etc. It's a copy and past. Here it goes:
1) I'm not expanding on discretion or maybe I am. Actually, I may have already written about it. I've noticed people have a fascination in setting people up together. It doesn't make sense why it happens. Although everyone I know thinks they are amazing match makers I have yet to meet someone with any success. I'm speaking from experience. Yes, I like meeting new people. People are fun and interesting and all that good stuff. Somehow I don't think God is behind many of these setups. All you have to do is step back and let Him work. He knows what He's doing; He's been doing since Adam and Eve. I think He has it under control. I know you think you have the perfect match for your friends, but the odds are against. Please, let God do His job.
2) All right, I'm using friend as a case study. Maybe I'm just sleepy, but I can't think of how. I'm not sure I'm the right person to talk about this. Yes, I think about what I wear. I want to look nice to go to church. When I wear a dress or makeup, it's typically for Jesus. Just throwing that out there. It's good to dress up for church most of the time...I usually try to wear nice shirts and good jeans. I have to dress nice to go to work. It's kinda a requirement so I do it. If I'm going to dress up, I'm doing it right. It's another reason I usually don't go all out on Sunday. Jesus loves me as I am. Clothes define some people...or so they think. I've learned this more from observation. Want to act tough or like you don't care then wear black or emoish clothes. Want to be a jock: wear underarmor. Etc. Me. I like to be comfortable. I also want to look nice and some shirts I get really excited about. Like when I run a race and get a shirt I wear it that Sunday afternoon. No one usually notices, but I'm proud. OK, this probably has nothing to do with what she wanted so I'm moving on.
3) I have great friends and they are definitely from God. Everyone needs them. If you are hanging out with people who don't love Jesus, odds are they are going to drag you down. People want to impress. Unless you are solid in the faith, so solid you can handle peer pressure, then you need to be around good people. Christian friends. Bad company corrupts character. (Somewhere in Proverbs. Read the whole book and tell me where it is. You probably need to read your Bible anyway). Yes, your friends need Jesus. But hanging out with just these lost people will hurt you. God will provide Godly friends if you ask for them. It's one thing He won't say no too. Pray for them. Sincerely. They'll uplift. They'll support. They'll provide Godly advice.

OK here are my three topics. Bed time.

Discretion

So I already put one post up here today, but I've been thinking about something all weekend and thought this was the best place to rant about it. Discretion. A lot of people don't have it and it's something I think should be discussed and my blog. (Jenn should be very excited to see 2 posts in one day.)
In a way, it could play off my last one...although not how people may see me as using it. Discretion should not be based on a person's color, ethnicity, hair color or whatever appearance they portray. That being said let me get to my point.
I've noticed that a lot of girls have no discretion in choosing people they wish to date. I'm not talking just about my friends; I mean girls period. It's something I've discussed with my dad before...been discussing for years...many because it frustrates me. There are good guys out there and it seems many girls go for the sorry ones. The gangbangers, pot heads, whatever. It's like this joke Jeff Foxworthy once said about how most women won't dangerous men. He went on to say, yea the ones who end up on COPS hanging out the door yelling "lock him up." beep beepity beep.
I'm not judging a guy by his appearances. If you're dating who looks bad, but isn't I'm not talking about you. That talks me back to the don't judge on appearances at the top. I'm talking about girls I hear about who are dating gangbangers. (This is not a term I came up with.)
I've always noticed that girls chase after these guys who will never take care of them. I mean, if a guy can not hold down a job he probably won't take care of you. I don't want to be the one supporting my man unless something horrible goes wrong in our life (i.e. he wakes up paralyzed...true story. Check out some Mark Driscoll sermons. Actually, Mark Driscoll has great sermons on this subject.)
Also don't let him push you around or speak with you in any tone which isn't respectful. The moment he leaves a bruise on you, this boy needs to be gone. He is not worth your time.
And don't think you are going to get this guy saved just because you are dating him and dragging him to church. If he's up front and says he doesn't believe in God or his entire life changes the moment he met you, something's up. I can put up appearances for a while until I get what I want. Well, I usually don't, but you get the picture. Dating is not a mission project.
Ladies, please think before dating a guy. Pay attention to how he acts, who he hangs out with, what he sticks in his mouth, his language, how he treats everyone from his mom to that little kid down the street. Everything. You have to use discretion when looking for a man to spend the rest of your life with. I don't know statistics very well, but I can say 50 percent of marriages do end in divorce. From observation, I've noticed many women who either support their husbands because they won't get a job. Men who care more about taking care of their self than their wife and kids.
All right. I'm done ranting. I'm hoping I didn't offend anyone, but I had to get that out.
One more thing. You are the daughter of the King and as that you deserve the best. God will provide a good man who will love you and spend his entire life with you. You'll be sitting on the front porch swing watching your grandbabies one day after a life spent chasing after God.

What's love got to do with it?

It's a beautiful Saturday morning, with the rain pouring outside and my mom sitting across from me. The last few days I've had something on my mind. The subject of my thoughts is love. The kind where you find that one amazing guy God designed just for you and you are going to spend the rest of your lives together till one or the other dies. That stuff, which I have yet to find and may never find if Jesus so chooses. That's right, I said it. Jesus may choose for me to live the life of singleness and I am perfectly OK with that. I'm not saying I'm against marriage and relationships...if a godly man walked into my life I would not be against it. Sometimes I do get a little lonely, but that's normal. I also pray I can be content with my Savior, lover and Lord. Paul even says in 1 Corinthians 7:20-40 in a few brief words he considers it better to remain unmarried so as if to stay focused on the Lord. It makes sense. Right now I believe I'm doing as a single lady and feel I am using this time to grow in my walk.
The thing which has been plaguing my mind is how focused our culture, and more specifically, some Christians, are on the relationship status of people. It's like if you aren't married or in a relationship there’s something wrong with you. I know people don’t think like this, but I have had a few people make comments like “You aren’t married yet?” or “We need to find you a man.” Look people. I’m waiting for Jesus to lead the right man in my life and, for the most part, am not in a hurry. Also, asking me if I’m married makes you look stupid. Do you see a ring or a husband? Just saying. Course it is funny when your dad is explaining how much he wants grandkids.
I think I keep getting off track a little. Marriages: everyone is focused. Back on track.
It’s not that I have a problem with everyone being happy and trying to make all their friends happy, but you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. You should find in the Lord, not in another person. I hope that by one day getting I can glorify God, but until then I want to glorify God through my singleness. Marriage really isn’t a necessity, despite the opinions of more than a few people.
I also don’t want you to read this and be like ‘don’t set her up.” Of course if a certain pastor gets that out of this, then it might be OK. I may not be able to meet people any other way. I’m saying don’t set me up with every person you meet, whether he loves Jesus or not. I’m content as is and will not date just anyone.
Anyway, thanks for reading my thoughts on the subject. It’s been playing on my mind since a Bible study and I had to get it out. I also had a little trouble getting all these thoughts together. I think my crazy job is draining my brain.